I have read and seen many posts on finding oneself in pursuit of true happiness; lately I question myself on many things, especially on things that truly make me “happy”. I mean what ticks me, how I envisage my life especially when I am approaching the BIG 40. It is said that life begins at 40, what does that even mean?
I guess, generally it is assumed that by age 40 the average person would have had a clear sense of direction on his or her life in terms of a career path, family and other socio-economic factors that generally happens to everyone; is this really the case? Considering all that is happening around us; it will not be surprising that at even 40 and beyond a lot of us would probably be still finding our feet and still ”hustling”.
In the last ten years, I have been super busy raising a family and keep a full time job, and it has not been easy and I am sure we all can relates somehow, learning to juggle and balancing has never been easier, in fact it looks as though it’s getting tougher by the years. In the midst of all the chaos of the everyday life, I tend to forget myself and I keep ”pouring” into others (I.e. family, job, church, external family etc..) even to my detriment and my being a woman even adds more pressure. Sometimes I feel helpless, suffocated, tired, irritated and even sick. I have gone on months without breaks and this vicious cycle can really be draining, for instance in the last two years, I can literally count the number of times I been to church, and for me going to church is one of the ways I destress and rejuvenate for the coming week, of course the corvid pandemic has also brought additional pressure to an already stressed life. I believe the scenario above is not peculiar to just me but thousands of women and men out there.
Sometimes I feel like I am existing and not living life to the fullest; just going through mundane routines. I have since resolved to do make more time for MYSELF and enjoy all the things that make me happy and truly fulfilled; to this end I have resolved to work on my blog website, which is coming out beautifully. I am also focusing my energy in growing my online accessories shop (@thepearls.gh) on my blogsite as well as Instagram and Facebook. I may probably go back to school and also build a mini library at home for all my books collections.
I am also planning to take dance lessons and do not be surprised to see me in town on a motorbike; BIKER GIRLS GH have to enroll me by force and finally the GIRLS TRIP WILL HAPPEN.!!!!
Now cheers to LIVING and FINDING OUR TRUE SELVES and ticking all the GOALS….!!!!
Yours truly, Shirley